Supporting a loved one with dementia can be one of life’s most challenging experiences. You cannot overlook the toll it may take on you emotionally or financially ― especially without proactive planning. To help families facing a recent diagnosis, we spoke to Susy Murphy, the owner of Aging Well Eldercare, who has helped hundreds of families during more than 30 years serving aging adults. Before we share her insights, let’s consider the impact of this life-altering diagnosis through one personal story.
Margaret’s story
When both of their sons had graduated high school, gotten into college and shown themselves capable of becoming hardworking, responsible adults, Margaret Jacobs and her loving husband, Tom, were finally able to step back and relax a bit ― the result of many years of hard work professionally and at home, and the stresses (and joys) that accompanied it.
Unfortunately, this reprieve was short-lived. Within months of their youngest son leaving for college, they received a long-sought explanation for the deteriorating health of Margaret’s mother: dementia, specifically vascular dementia, which may have begun as much as a decade before her diagnosis.[i]
Margaret summarizes the financial, emotional and logistical ramifications that followed with one word: a nightmare.
Her parents lived in Florida, thousands of miles from their children and grandchildren. Her father remained in excellent condition and therefore insisted on caring for Margaret’s mother himself. Then came the hardest part: the heartache of having her mother at times forget who she was and the lifetime of memories they shared.
As Margaret reflects on life since the diagnosis, she wonders what she and her family could have done differently. She worries about her father ― the toll that being his wife’s caregiver is taking on him and the heartache he suffers as he watches her deteriorate. She also worries about her parents running out of money and needing to move out of the home they love, should the cost of care for her mother exhaust their savings. Mostly, she sounds exhausted as she continues to muster the strength she needs to help her mother and the rest of her family through this painful journey.
A familiar story
Unfortunately, Margaret’s story is becoming all too familiar, with the total number of elderly Americans with dementia expected to rise from an estimated 7 million in 2020 to more than 9 million by 2030 and 12 million by 2040.[ii]
Murphy and her team of care managers, who describe themselves as the “wedding planners for aging well,” seek to articulate the joy you can still find during the later stages of life and the personalized care that elders deserve. Members of the Aging Life Care Association, they have backgrounds in nursing, social work, gerontology and physical therapy, and they offer not only experience, but also an uplifting approach.
Here are some insights Murphy shared during our conversation with her:
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[i] Swaddiwudhipong, Nol, David J. Whiteside, Frank H. Hezemans, Duncan Street, James B. Rowe and Timothy Rittman, “Pre-diagnostic Cognitive and Functional Impairment in Multiple Sporadic Neurodegenerative Diseases,” Alzheimer’s & Dementia, May 2023; 19: 1752–1763, https://doi.org/10.1002/alz.12802.
[ii] PRB, Fact Sheet: U.S. Dementia Trends, https://www.prb.org/resources/fact-sheet-u-s-dementia-trends/. Accessed July 19, 2023.
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